How many times have you heard someone speak unkind words about their spouse? Everyday over the FM radio stations we hear caller after caller talking about their husband or wife and mostly they have nothing kind to say about them. When you hear the talk in the saloon or eating joints its the same story. The thing is this, though our tongue is a small part of the body it is one of the most powerful tools for good or evil in our marriages.
21 The tongue can bring death or life;
those who love to talk will reap the consequences.
That tells me that within our tongue we have the capacity to either bring life or death to our marriages based on what we are saying.
So what are you saying about your marriage? Not just that, what kind of words do you use when you are speaking to your spouse? Are they kind and encouraging words or are the harsh and cutting words?
With your tongue you have the opportunity to daily build your spouse or to cut them down by the things you say and how you say them.
New Living Translation (NLT)
5 In the same way, the tongue is a small thing that makes grand speeches.
But a tiny spark can set a great forest on fire.
What kind of fire are you going to be lighting in your marriage today?
Are you thankful for your spouse? When you have a thankful attitude it will be recognised through the words you speak. You will be quick to see the good and words of praise will fill your mouth to build each other.
What attracted you to your spouse? Do you still remember what it was and do you still verbalize this aspects or are they deeply buried in the valley of forgetfulness? It is amazing how we are usually so quick to verbalise what we feel is not good and we tent to with hold our comments when something is good.
Use your tongue as a source of life to your marriage and even as you do that, take the time to listen to your spouse.
James 1: 19 tells us to be quick to hear and slow to speak and slow to anger. Many times we have misunderstandings in marriage because we do not take the time to really listen to what our spouse is saying.
So even as you carefully choose the words you speak over your marriage learn to listen also.