One of the passions that my wife has is cooking and she is very good at it. There are days I come home and I find all sorts of things on the kitchen counter. Flour, sugar, margarine eggs baking powder…..
Now all this things would not be that appetizing if they were placed on the table and you were told to dig in. On the other hand, when all this ingredients are mixed together in the right order and in the right proportions, then something good begins to happen but this is not enough. Can you imagine someone presenting you with such a paste for you to eat? It would not be that tasty either.
When this mixture is placed under heat, something amazing happens because then you have a lovely cake.
From there on, you can decorate the cake in any manner that you like depending on your preference.
Without the basic ingredients it matters not how you decorate the cake, it will not taste good.
I thought about that and how the same applies to marriage.
24 This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.
There are some basic ingredients that must be present in a marriage for the couple to be united as one and to be happy. These include Christ as the corner stone trust, love, forgiveness, hope, faith, respect and faithfulness among others. Without these, it matters not how much icing and decoration you place on it, the base will not hold it together.
Many times we neglect the basic ingredients and we chase after the icing and the decorations. We think more money will make our marriage better, or maybe a bigger house another car or maybe children. Nothing wrong with all these, but do you have all the basic ingredients in the right proportions?
19 The righteous person faces many troubles, but the Lord comes to the rescue each time.
Just like with the cake in the oven, every relationship will go through the fire. The fire can either be to your advantage or it to destroy what you have. The fires that you go through actually bring out the best in you but it may not seem that way when you are in the midst of the fire. One thing I know is this, if you have the basic ingredients right, then the heat will only make things better. Every great marriage has gone through some fires and come out better. The one who allows you to go through the fire knows how long you need to be in there so do not worry He will take you out at the appropriate time
Where is the focus in your relationship? Are you seeking to develop and strengthen the basic ingredients or are you chasing after the icing and decorations? Seek to make Christ the cornerstone of your relationship, build trust, respect, faithfulness, faith and hope. Allow forgiveness to glue you together when cracks begin to emerge as you build a relationship immersed in true love and not t.
Icing and decorations may make the cake look and even taste better but without them you can still have a great cake. Seek to strengthen the basic ingredients in your marriage before you chase after the icing for the cake.